Obstacle 3: Lack of Confidence
Meet Alex
For years, Alex has been a silent observer of social justice movements. He attended a few rallies and meetings, but remained in the shadows, convinced that his voice had nothing meaningful to contribute. He believed his opinions were too simple, his arguments too weak, and his knowledge too limited to make any impact.
A white man well aware of his privilege, Alex had also become deeply afraid of being called out by a woman or person of color. He imagined himself standing up at a meeting, only to be met with dismissive glances, derisive laughter, or an admonishment to check his privilege. The thought of being ridiculed haunted him, making him question whether he belonged in the world of activism at all.
Alex’s heroes were people like Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., and Nelson Mandela: towering, charismatic figures of change. He knew he would never be as great as they were. But he was so far beneath them that it was hard to imagine how he could make any contribution at all. Any time he had the impulse to speak, his heart would race, his palms would sweat, and his mind would go blank.
Solution
Take Small Steps
Diverse skills matter. Representation matters.
It’s important for all kinds of people to participate in social justice efforts, including those who are shy and/or privileged.
A Personal Story
I myself struggled with low confidence for a long time.
I remember, in 2008, volunteering to make phone calls for Barack Obama’s campaign. It was my first attempt at direct activism. I was in my mid-20s, perfectly capable of engaging with others over the phone. And yet, I found the process so intimidating that I snuck out before the end of my shift!
Eventually, I learned that you don’t need to be a Gandhi or a King to make an impact. The very nature of activism is collective, dependent on the actions of many rather than the charisma of a few.
Alex’s belief that he has nothing to contribute is a barrier constructed by fear and social conditioning, not a reflection of his actual worth or potential impact.
Ways to Start Slowly and Safely
Research
If your lack of confidence is rooted in a lack of knowledge or skills, do something about it.
Start Local
Local issues often provide a more immediate and tangible sense of impact.
Find a Small Group
Become a regular somewhere safe and welcoming. Practice speaking up little by little.
Work Behind the Scenes
Movements need writers, graphic designers, organizers, researchers, and countless support roles.
Contribute Financially
If you have the means, organizations are often just as grateful for financial support as volunteer time.
Consider Counseling
Fear and low confidence are often rooted in cognitive distortions that can be addressed through therapy.
Whether You Are Oppressed or Privileged, You Belong
We do not get to choose many of the groups to which we belong. Activism is an exception. Your willingness to get involved is proof of your passion and worth.
If You Are Oppressed
Do not allow yourself to be cowed by decades of messaging that you are not good enough. You are.
If You Are Privileged
Don’t let your status prevent you from helping. You can take responsibility for your privilege by showing up, listening, and becoming a valuable ally.
“Movements are built not by perfect people, but by ordinary people willing to take one small step forward.”